Are you totally innocent of all wrong doing? Are you living in a state in which you are free from guilt or blame? Maybe you feel as though you are impeccable and without fault in the situation you face. Even if it is so, we cannot use our innocence to justify not forgiving one who has wronged us.
Have you ever unwittingly or unintentionally hurt someone? The hurt is the same whether intentional or unintentional. Even if the wrong done by you is truly unintentional, you still have to ask for forgiveness.
The Lord says today, “Matthew 5:23-24 (NIV) “Therefore, if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother has something against you, leave your gift there in front of the altar. First go and be reconciled to your brother; then come and offer your gift.”
Until you have resolved the issue of forgiveness and unforgiveness, you are spiritually stymied and have put both yourself and your adversary in a prison, cut off from the full blessings of God. I tell you, do not let another Sunday worship or other spiritual gathering go by without being reconciled with your brother or sister.
Go out of your way to humble yourself and even initiate a conversation with your adversary to resolve all offenses and transgressions.
Ras and Bev Robinson Blog 
What you are assuming is unwarranted and unjust; you assume survivors of sexual, mental, physical, and spiritual abuse are not willing to forgive those by whose hands they were mercilessly abused.
In my experience forgiveness is the one thing “we” are more than wiling to do.
And we have done that, and for the rest of our lives, are doing that..yet..not one Christian leader is determined to uproot the in-house abuser; to confront and report the abuser to the legal system of law and order.
Instead, the Protestant church engages, just like the Catholic church has done and is doing, in cover-up and lack of concern for the little ones damaged and crippled by child predators.
But the continuing abuse and spiritual manipulation to “forgive and forget” is not only evil, it is not scriptural.
“Forgive and forget” is nowhere in the Scriptures. This is a phrase taken from Shakespears play, “King Lear.”
Continuing to harass the child victim in favor of “forgiving” the rapist/abuser is unconscionable.
This speaks to the truth that within the Christian church are those who can at will, abuse and violate children, without any accountability..to the law or to the child and the parents of that child.
This neglect and further abuse destroys the ability of the child to trust.
I refer to you the link to the site that engages in rescue and support of abuse victims;
http://www.mksafetynet.net
I hope you will look at it.
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