How To Have A Happy Home
1-A – Good Attitudes Build Happy Homes
Ras Robinson

What is an attitude? Attitude is a settled way of thinking or feeling about someone or something, typically one that is reflected in a person’s behavior. Attitude could be described with these words: view, viewpoint, outlook, perspective.

Some guidelines and things to remember concerning attitudes God has shown me I should have as husband, father, grandfather and great grandfather:

  • My attitude is that my home is blessed by God.
  • Each day is a new day and we forget what lies behind. We concentrate on the present while stretching toward the future.
  • Problems are opportunities for breakthroughs. Big problems are opportunities for big breakthroughs.
  • I am a servant to my wife and children.
  • God is in total command of my family and not me.
  • I am no longer a dirt farmer’s son; rather I am a joint heir with Jesus.
  • My job is to create, with my words and actions, a positive atmosphere in our family.
  • Daily I create the atmosphere in my home by my attitudes.

Let’s look at some verses of Scripture regarding our attitudes:

Does the Bible speak specifically regarding attitude?  “For the word of God is living and active. Sharper than any double-edged sword, it penetrates even to dividing soul and spirit, joints and marrow; it judges the thoughts and attitudes of the heart.” (Hebrews 4:12 NIV)

A good additive of thanksgiving enhances attitude.  “Devote yourselves to prayer, keeping alert in it with an attitude of thanksgiving.” (Colossians 4:2 NIV)

Adopt humility with your attitude as did Christ.  “Your attitude should be the same as that of Christ Jesus:Who, being in very nature God, did not consider equality with God something to be grasped, but made himself nothing, taking the very nature of a servant, being made in human likeness. And being found in appearance as a man, he humbled himself and became obedient to death–even death on a cross!” (Philippians 2:5-8 NIV)

Right attitudes lead children to righteousness.  “It is he who will go as a forerunner before Him in the spirit and power of Elijah, TO TURN THE HEARTS OF THE FATHERS BACK TO THE CHILDREN, and the disobedient to the attitude of the righteous, so as to make ready a people prepared for the Lord.” (Luke 1:17 NASB)

Right attitudes gain approval with both man and God. “For the Kingdom of God is not a matter of what we eat or drink, but of living a life of goodness and peace and joy in the Holy Spirit. If you serve Christ with this attitude, you will please God, and others will approve of you, too.” (Romans 14:17-18 NLT)

Right attitudes require humility and death to selfishness. “You must have the same attitude that Christ Jesus had. Though he was God, he did not think of equality with God as something to cling to. Instead, he gave up his divine privileges; he took the humble position of a slave and was born as a human being. When he appeared in human form, he humbled himself in obedience to God and died a criminal’s death on a cross.” (Philippians 2:5-8 NLT)

I pray every day that my home will be filled with the peace and presence of Jesus, first for my family and then for the world to see what miracles God has done in our home. He is certainly not finished with us yet. There is a large wooden piece of art to the left of our front door that makes our declaration loud and clear. It states for all to see, “As for me and my house we will serve the Lord. Joshua 24:15”

In addition to the wooden piece of art, we also follow the Jewish tradition of placing a small wooden container called a “mezuzah” on our doorpost. A mezuzah is a piece of parchment (often contained in a decorative case) with specified Hebrew verses from the Torah (Deuteronomy 6:4-9 and 11:13-21).These verses comprise the Jewish prayer “Shema Yisrael,” beginning with the phrase: “Hear, O Israel, the Lord our God, the Lord is One.” The parchment is prepared by a qualified scribe, written in black indelible ink and with a special quill pen. The parchment is then rolled up and placed inside the case and fastened to the door frame as a reminder to all who come and go that “the Lord is our God.”

Next Tuesday, April 8, my wife will release her insights about the importance of having good attitudes in the home. She is very transparent, fair and full of mercy. I pray you will totally buy into these tenets and insights we bring from our 57 years of marriage. I sure hope she does not totally undress my weaknesses before you. I can assure you that she will call attitudes by the right name and help all of us consider our way toward the goal of “How to Build a Happy Home.” I totally trust her to lead you with God anointed insights and delightful and sometimes maybe painful grist for your mill to bring all of us to a happier home life.

 

HOW TO HAVE A HAPPY HOME – INTRODUCTION
Ras Robinson

WHY ARE WE WRITING THIS BOOK?
BACKGROUND
.  My grandfather and grandmother had chiseled on their tombstone marker the words “To God Be the Glory.” Those words were a seed for me and now for my family, believing that all our family will bring glory to our God and Savior Jesus the Christ.

In raising our two children, we taught them that our family does not get divorces. My father and mother raised six children, four girls and two boys. I am the youngest. When my siblings would come visit our parents, I would hear the latest news from their families, good and bad. In that environment, I determined that if I ever got married, my wife and I would remain committed in marriage for life. I knew it would be a challenge at times to stay together, but I knew it was God’s will. Our two children deserved that solid and stable foundation.

In the last few years, some of our family members have been on the brink of seeking divorce, just as Bev and I were when our two children were pubescent kids. But we are pleased that, so far, all of us have stayed the course. We believe God is also pleased.

I performed a marriage ceremony for a beautiful young couple. It was a great celebration for the two who were so much in love. A while later they separated. I just read that she has decided to return to her husband and try again. Needless to say I am elated about this news. But full disclosure dictates that I must also share that many other marriages are in deep trouble and looking at divorce.

THE STATE OF MARRIAGE IN AMERICA. In preparing this article, I referenced the current divorce rate through a Google search. Here is what I found to be current in a report filed in 2013:

“Marriage is a counter-cultural act in a throwaway society.” — Dr. William H. Doherty, noted marriage scholar and therapist.

An overview stated: “In the United States, researchers estimate that 40%–50% of all first marriages, and 60% of second marriages, will end in divorce.”

WHY BEV AND I ARE WRITING THIS BOOK ABOUT “HOW TO HAVE A HAPPY HOME”: Today my wife Bev and I begin, after 57 years of marriage, releasing some revelatory and practical teaching on the subject of “How to Have a Happy Home.” We believe the best starting place to having a happy home is having the right attitudes because “Right Attitudes Build Happy Homes.” That will be the focus for our first chapters.

“Attitudes” absolutely make or break happy homes. Do you have the right attitude towards your spouse? How about your offspring? We want to share with you what we have learned. Our intention is that it will inspire and help you in your home.

The cost in our marriage was great from our wrong attitudes. We came very close to losing our marriage when our two children – daughter Robin and son Kevin were in or near their teenage years. Those were our learning times. We both desired a great marriage but seemed to know little about how to make it better. So, we asked God to help us. Bev and I will share how we came to be filled with the Holy Spirit and learned to make and keep Jesus as Lord in our lives and home. Once that happened, our attitudes became more righteous and our home more happy.

Our prayer is that you can learn from our mistakes as well as many, many things we have discovered about having a happy home, often through trial and error. We hope these will bless and help you enjoy an even more happy home.

Much of what we share was first learned from seeking God in Scripture, church and prayer. We are both God-hogs with faith that never fails. Additionally, our bookcases contain most books published in recent years on Christian marriage. They have collectively been very helpful.

Our format for “How to Have a Happy Home” will be simple and based in a desire that what we share will inspire and teach you how to be a total success in your home. It is our belief that having the right attitudes, based in the righteousness of Jesus will be a giant step forward.

We have agreed that I will lead off each time with my perspective, then Bev will give hers a couple of days later.

Our topics will include:
Husbands, Fathers, Grandfathers and Great Grandfathers
Wives, Mothers, Grandmothers and Great Grandmothers
Parenting
Grandparenting and Great Grandparenting
Special Occasions with the Family

The first chapter “Right Attitudes Build Happy Homes” will be posted on Thursday, April 3.

 

 Meetings in Austin (Friday, February 28) and Milano (Sunday, March 2)

 Austin – Friday, February 28. 7:00 PM. Meeting in the home of Ray and Kayla Walter, 1500 High Lonesome, Leander, TX 78041 (just west of Cedar Park). Home phone: 512-986-7595.  You should plan to arrive early, around 6:30, as seating is limited.

Milano – Sunday, March 2. 10:00 AM. The Master’s Gateway Church. Located on Hwy 79, on top of the hill at the corner of Hwy 79 East & FM 3242. Pastor Ross Cunningham’s Phone 979-450-0891.

Pray for the meetings and come see us: God is prepared to heal the sick. Come in faith believing and expecting. Miracles will occur.

WHY ARE WE HAVING THESE MEETINGS? The “Bonfires of Revival” message was revealed to Bev and Ras in Hunt, TX in 1974!!!  In every place we have preached, taught or shared this vision, God has come and inhabited people and places. The two chosen places for the meetings this time are Austin and Milano, TX. The atmosphere in both places has been and is being prepared for a “Bonfires of Revival” experience.

The questions are: “Do we care enough and are we willing to start “Bonfires of Revival” in Central Texas? Would you be willing to be the “kindling” to start the fire? How about being “log of sustaining revival?” And finally, would you be willing to stoke the coals and let the Holy Spirit blow until the “Bonfires of Revival” explode in holy flames into these and other locations?

My Dear South Central Texas Fullness Friends and Family,

A prophet called me early this morning and shared that “fountains of blessings and revival” are about to spring forth from my heart. This particular prophet has been used of God during a very serious medical episode with Bev and an infected tooth. We nearly lost her.

Another time he called and said God would us just the words from my mouth to heal people. It happened three times in two different churches. Today as I pray about being in Austin, TX on February 28, in Milano, TX on March 2 and in Georgetown, TX on March 3, I get excited thinking about what God is about to do in these three venues.

God is prepared heal the sick and infirmed. In doing so, He is expecting you to come in faith believing. Miracles will occur.

Would you please pray for these three venues?

Hope to see you there.

LOCATIONS:

[Austin]: Leander, TX, 1500 High Lonesome, Leander, TX 78041, home phone 512 986 7595, email: kaylawalter@aol.com. Start arriving 6:30 p.m. Come early, seating is very limited.

Milano, TX, Highway 79 north from Milano on the left. Seating is limited. Pastor Ross Cunningham’s Phone 979 459 0891. Start arriving 9:30 a.m., service starts at 10:00 a.m.

ANNOUNCING A “CONNECTING THE NET” OPPORTUNITY with the Body of Christ and others in Central and South Texas on March 2, 2014, Milano, TX

Do you remember the “Connecting the Net Conferences” with Fullness in Christ Ministries at Milano, Texas led by Ras Robinson and Ross Cunningham? Involved were leaders like Ross Cunningham, Terry Thompson, Ron Corzine, Warren Piersol, Scott Windrum, Ras Robinson, et al

We are announcing a “Connecting the Net” Opportunity with the Central Texas Body of Christ and others who will join us . Ras and Bev Robinson will be speaking Sunday morning March 2 at 10:00 a.m. at The Master’s Gateway Church on Highway 79, Milano, TX.

Come and get connected with the saints and others in Central and South Texas. If you would like to be fed daily a brief prophetic word from Ras and Bev Robinson, you can subscribe FREE on our website http://fullnessonline.org . Or you can send your name, e-mail, city and state to us at fcm@fullnessonline.org.

For more information about the March 2, 2014 speaking engagement with Ras and Bev Robinson, call Pastor Ross Cunningham at 979-450-0891. Or, write to us at: fcm@fullnessonline.org.  All are welcome and we would love to have you join us.

For the front lawn at our home, I chose and planted a healthy young magnolia tree especially for Bev to enjoy. This was about 20 years ago.

The tree grew fast at first, showing the brilliance of those dark green leaves and producing awesome white blossoms with golden stamens. I felt so good about my wife driving by that tree daily while going and coming to and from our house.

But…last year the leaves began to look pale and the top part of the tree began drop more leaves than it produced. My heart started to panic, especially after taking some of the branches and leaves to an expert nurseryman in town. He said the severe drought we had a few years ago caused damage to magnolias all over town.

He said the roots were damaged by the drought and it would take the very best of treatment to save the tree. Magnolias need more iron and other minerals than some other trees. He also said magnolias have roots near the surface of the soil and they need a lot of water. He prescribed treating the soil with iron, rebuilding the soil at the base of the tree and good watering for the future. My hope began to soar.

The parallel to our human condition is amazing. A drought of the water of the word of God can damage your spiritual life. But you can regain your spiritual health by adding not only hearing the word but also reading, studying meditating upon it.

Finally getting connected to other members of the body of Christ and to the Lord Himself will save your life and add joyful years of happiness and fulfillment. You will be amazed at the wonder of God’s riches that have been waiting for you. Help yourself to them! They are God’s gift to you.

Last Sunday, I made an unannounced visit to my dear friend Pastor Ross Cunningham at The Master’s Gateway Church in Milano, TX. It is located on Highway 79, northeast of Austin. Ross’ wife Beverly is also a pastor with her husband and gloriously leads worship using excellent recordings of very talented worshippers.

My visit was not for the purpose of preaching. It was to renew fellowship with Ross and Beverly Cunningham – two of the most precious people I know or have known. During our visit, they took me to a popular fried chicken fast food place. The meal was delicious and we talked and dreamed of perhaps starting back up the “Connecting the Net” ministry we had together in south central TX some years ago.

Ross told me that connections that were once vibrant in love and acceptance had faded almost entirely away. His heart is to revitalize those connections and begin some new ones. I share that dream.

Last Sunday, Ross asked me to testify about our ministry in the Philippines to hungry children from dumpsites, under bridges and city streets. Ross spoke on “Lawlessness.” In the message, he repeated over and over again that God intends for His children, the saints of God, to be and stay connected. It was one of the best messages on love and acceptance, being connected and staying connected I have ever heard.

“But speaking the truth in love, we are to grow up in all aspects into Him who is the head, even Christ, from whom the whole body, being fitted and held together by what every joint supplies, according to the proper working of each individual part, causes the growth of the body for the building up of itself in love.” (Ephesians 4:15-16 NASB)

On March 2 I will be ministering at The Masters Gateway Church with my wife Bev. Come connect with us in a place of love and acceptance. For more information, call Pastor Ross: 979-280-0891.

You have turned for me my mourning into dancing; You have loosed my sackcloth and girded me with gladness, that my soul may sing praise to You and not be silent. O LORD my God, I will give thanks to You forever. (Psalm 30:11-12 (NASB) 

I awakened one day spiritually to realize that my world was crumbling right before my eyes. Until that moment of discovery, I had testified to people and given thanks to God almost daily of how good things were. And they were actually good.

Twelve years ago, I had triple by-pass heart surgery. Last fall I had five stents inserted in two different arteries requiring two surgeries only two weeks apart. The anesthesia twice in such a short time was a bit of a challenge at my age to overcome, but God came through for me. During all growing older adjustment, I have been advised not to climb ladders and to stay off elevated structures of all kinds. This was new and very hard to accept because I’ve always been able to physically do just about anything I wanted. But I did comply to the instructions

All of this has resulted in an increased load on my wife Bev. She really puts a huge amount of work into Christmas decorations. Because of this, our house is really gorgeous during the holidays. But it is a lot of work and I did not help as I should have done.

In a discussion about it, tears were shed and unfortunate and untimely words were spoken by both of us. Both of us were emotionally devastated following the “discussion.” We took a “time out” for a couple of days and said little to each other.

During the “time out,” I began to remember the good things and to feel pressure in my soul that I had not done my part to help Bev. As I prayed, I was solidly convicted to send her an email, to be followed by a verbal discussion, apologizing without any expectation of how she might respond. Well, she responded graciously and with forgiveness and mercy. All is well now to the glory of God. I have the best wife in the world. She always has been and always will be.

When I got out of the driver’s seat and off the throne of my life, the Holy Spirit took over with conviction, repentance and humility. He turned my mourning into dancing, removed my sackcloth and filled my heart with praise and thanksgiving for my wife and family.

Try it the next time you find yourself in a “discussion” about something that needs to be handled.

You are drawn to understand the Bible. Your hunger for God’s truth is about to be satisfied. Embrace My Bible and hold it close to your heart. Pray and ask for a way to install and activate My word so that you are approved as one of My workers with no shame. When you were born again, I wrote upon the tablets of your heart. My goal for you is that you will speak as I speak and do as I do.

2 Timothy 2:15 (NASB) “Be diligent to present yourself approved by God as a workman who does not need to be ashamed, accurately handling the word of truth.”

In that one verse, we can learn truth that will change minds and mountains. I want to break it down simply for you.

One of the churches I oversee has a pastor with grown twin boys. Both boys attained to rank of Eagle Scout. I was invited to the occasion of their being honored because of that accomplishment. The ceremony was to certify that they had crossed all the “t’s” and dotted all the “I”s” for becoming Eagle Scouts. Now they have the honor that many great leaders in America have. They all graduated as Eagle Scouts.

How about you? Would you like to attain the level of being an approved workman for God? Frankly, I can remember exactly where I was when God dropped it into my heart that I could attain to being a skilled and convincing workman for God in the Scriptures. It was on Briarwood Drive in Nashville, TN. I was a young man and God told me that chilly Saturday morning that the Bible was like an Owner’s Manual for my new Volkswagen. He said “Knowing and applying My word is necessary to get the most out of your Christian life and to show others the way.” Below are some things I learned and am still learning.

Taking the “key words” of 2 Timothy 2:15, we find that those key words become the key to efficiency in living God’s word. Let’s start.

2 Timothy 2:15 (NASB) Be diligent to present yourself approved by God as a workman who does not need to be ashamed, accurately handling the word of truth.” 

Diligence. In the Greek, the simple meaning of diligence is diligent, earnest or eager. Be diligent to read and study the Scriptures. Ask many, many questions as you read. Look up words you don’t understand. Don’t stop until you are satisfied that you know what God is saying in a verse. Also find out the context of culture in which this verse was written. What was the overall picture that makes up the truth God wants you to know?

Gaining God’s Approval. A serious disciple of Jesus wants to please God and gain His approval. Embrace with the emotions of your heart what it means to be approved by God for His will and purposes. You are presented daily to Him to make sure you are showing the attributes He desires.

Approval by God. Your aim is to present yourself approved by God. In the Greek, it means to accept or receive. Proved, receivable, tried as are metals by fire and thus are purified. Sometimes that approval comes as a result of trials by fires of adversity and difficulty.

Doing that which is honorable brings a person real approval, as distinguished from only seeming to be approved.  A workman needing not to be ashamed is approved unto God.

Being God’s workman. Firemen, policemen, military soldiers all wear uniforms. That uniform says they are authorized and empowerd to carry out their assignments. Those called and anointed by God are sent as soldiers, ambassadors, evangelists, pastors and all included in the five-fold ministry. You and I are included here. We are God’s workmen, sent to complete an assignment. Study, prepare and serve as one who need never be ashamed. You want others to see you as blameless as you do God’s will so very well. Settle in your heart that you are not to be ashamed as a workman approved by God and anointed for His assignment.

Accurately handling the word of truth. Be one who accurately handles the word of truth. In the Greek, that means to handle correctly and skillfully; to correctly teach the word of truth.

Join with me in seeking to make God proud, very proud to call us His approved workers. Enjoy your study and rejoice greatly.

But by His doing you are in Christ Jesus, who became to us wisdom from God, and righteousness and sanctification, and redemption, so that, just as it is written, “Let him who boasts, boast in the Lord.” 1 Corinthians 1:30-31 (NASB)

Just think of it for a moment. We already know Christ came to live in our hearts when we became born again. You can be totally confident in that truth. I have been confident of it without a shadow of doubt since my salvation at age 12. If you are not, activate Christ with you through believing He is the Son of God and that He died for you. Tell Jesus right now that you have accepted him in your heart and thank Him for living His life within you. If you have done this, all the rest I am about to tell you is true and powerful. It will change your life forever. (Please let me know by email at info@fullnessnetwork.net if you accepted Christ upon reading this. Thanks.)

Now think about Jesus dying on the cross so that you can allow Him to live His current earthly life through you. You are so into Him and He is so into you that the life you live now is not your own but His. In summary, “My old self has been crucified with Christ. It is no longer I who live, but Christ lives in me. So I live in this earthly body by trusting in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me.” Galatians 2:20 (NLT)

But by His doing you are in Christ Jesus, who became to us wisdom from God, and righteousness and sanctification, and redemption, so that, just as it is written, “Let Him who boasts, boast in the Lord.” 1 Corinthians 1:30-31 (NASB)

Please commit with me and my family to seriously read God’s word every single day. Join us daily in reading Psalms and Proverbs and if time allows also read in Matthew, John and Acts. Go as far as you can. Keep notes in your Bible margins and in a journal of some kind. Keep sacred a certain hour in which you do this. My hour is usually at 4:30 a.m. Yours could be any time that is good for you. Do it daily. You will be transformed in your spirit and soul. Trust me and the Lord on this one.

There are some things to know and to teach your family, your church and all who will listen.

#1. God is the one who put Christ Jesus within your heart.

#2. Make absolutely sure you have allowed God to put Christ within your heart. Confirm it with Him.

#3. Decide on some verses, words, passages or books of the Bible you want to “study more.”

#4. If possible get a good concordance. Most full Bibles have a small concordance at the back of the Bible. Get a Bible Dictionary and Webster’s English Dictionary.

#5. If you use a computer, you may want to buy a Bible program called WordSearch (https://www.wordsearchbible.com/).  A good free Bible program is E-sword (http://www.e-sword.net/). There are some good free resources on the Internet. Two of them are Bible Gateway (http://www.biblegateway.com/) and Blue Letter Bible (http://www.blueletterbible.org/index.cfm).

#5 Join a discussion in a Bible Study in Sunday School or a study group.

#6 Find your own way to “know” what the Scriptures teach and how to find, get and carry out God’s will for your life. Be faithful to do His word. You will change things in your world.

Christ in you becomes your wisdom, righteousness, sanctification and redemption. Being inside you, He brings these four Kingdom qualities and plants each of them very carefully inside you. Jesus is your conduit for all four.

Having Christ firmly planted inside you, then you begin to grow your own personal garden of wisdom, righteousness, sanctification and redemption. You are now the expression of Christ because He manifests each of them through your own being. For you to live is Christ. You are as He is in this world.

Let’s do it. As stated above: Join us daily in reading Psalms and Proverbs and if time allows also read in Matthew, John and Acts. Go as far as you can. Keep notes in your Bible margins and in a journal of some kind. Keep sacred a certain hour in which you do this. My hour is usually at 4:30 a.m. Yours could be any time that is good for you. Do it daily. You will be transformed in your spirit and soul. Trust me and the Lord on this one.